I’m not someone who can claim to have super washboard abs or a slim and slender figure, but I can happily say that I have come a long way since the time that I was too large to see my toes on the weighing scale! In fact just following a few small steps to a smaller clothing size got me so far that in the last year I was able to participate in stage plays as the leading female actress, model for a diamond jewelry brand, and even get that close to a calendar shoot—all without trying to be “noticed” at all! When you take proper care of your body it usually will do the talking for you. So, with this article I’m going to teach you how to lose weight three times faster than most the things that you’ve already tried.

1) Eat 6 small meals a day. I don’t know how some of my friends do it, but I’m never able to pass up good food. As a teen, my girlfriends and I would go to town for parties and while they were like “Oh, I feel like such a pig for eating potato chips”, I was like “Bring it on!” Of course, this usually left me feeling a little more than glutinous and guilty afterwards. I’ve tried for years to shed pounds by not eating, but even when I didn’t eat for days it didn’t work. However, as soon as I started eating 6 smaller meals, I started to see marked improvement.

2) Do something energizing that you love. This next step I forced myself to discover, shortly after I started to see success with step number 1. For years I’ve tried and failed with just about every workout video or exercise gym routine that I put my time to. I’m a person with a short attention span and even shorter available free-time frame, so for me grueling workouts that consisted of rep after rep, three types of crunches in sets of eight, and push-up variations that lasted 20 minutes of precious time were not what kept me coming back for more.

At the age of 19 I finally discovered the physical exercise activity that I secretly thought I was too big for—dancing. Hip-hop leads to jazz, jazz leads to contemporary and contemporary leads to belly dance, which is where I still am at today. After I started dancing I literally shed pounds with sweat. It was awesome! So, probably my biggest advice to you as far as work-out is to find something that you love doing and let that work for you. Not everyone is cut out for the dull halls of a gym and the droning of an instructor. Of course, after you find what you love doing as far as exercise, make time for it every day. Learn to grow with it and make it a passion, something that you love to do, not that you have to force yourself to do just to lose weight.

3) Balance food patterns. It’s commonplace in most family homes to have the small meal as a light luncheon when dad is busy at work, mom needs time to fix the home, and the kids are out to school, while saving the bigger meal for when the family can dine together. While this does produce its fair share of happy moments and a longer bonding time, it’s kind of not so good for your metabolism to go to bed with a big chunk of steak and a dollop of mashed potatoes in your stomach that still need digesting. Some years back, as a family, we decided to have the bigger meal of meat and heavy starches for lunch (even if it meant packing it) and the lighter meal for dinner. Things like stake were saved for lunch only while soup and bread, stir fried veggies and omelets, or cheese and salad were for dinner. This did wonders for my weight loss as well. Of course, if you are in a fully-fledged family household (dad, mom, and kids) then this may be hard to incorporate keeping everybody’s comfort in the equation. It did take some time for us to get used to too, but having snack in between meals helped to balance things out and adjust eating patterns a bit better.

So that’s that. Those are the few simple steps that got me so far, from 69 kilos to 54! The final cherry on the cake, of course, is consistency. I hope that helps! Some women I know have had equal success using weight loss pills like the XLS Medical, but for me, I usually prefer to go the natural route. True, it does take a bit longer, but the results usually last for longer as well. Feel free to share your own ideas and success stories. We’d love to learn from you too!